Been gone for a while

WOW, I was amazed to find that my BLOG was still on the net after 2 years. It's interesting to sit back and read what I once wrote.

Well, It's 2007 and there's so much to talk about, that I don't even know where to begin. My career has taken me on an interesting roller coaster. Not sure when to get off the ride, but one thing is for sure, lots of new experiences.

So, my new postings will focus more on the web and the many stupid mistakes that people out there are making which call themselves developers. It's amazing, these guys learn a little HTML and now they think they know what they are doing.

I recently found an old notebook on my shelf that had notes from a website I was designing in 1997... that's 10 years... I've learned a few things since then.

So, to catch everyone up, I've been in the Internest Biz from the begining.. yes, I experienced the pain of a 14.4 modem before DSL existed. I used to develop in ColdFusion and now develop .NET apps in C# using Visual Studio.

Feel free to share your experiences and I'll share mine..

I'm BACK....

What If..

Life is full of “What ifs”. I’m sure you’ve all experienced it once or twice in your life. What if I had taken that job…What if I didn’t get married…What if I didn’t get pregnant…How different would my life be now?

If you have the “What if” syndrome, my advice to you is, GET OVER IT! You can’t change the past. You didn’t take that job that would’ve launched your career…You did get married…You did get pregnant… So you can’t do anything about it now. You have to learn to deal with your current situation. If you are not happy with your current job, what are you going to do to get out of it? If you are not happy married, what are you going to do to fix it? If you hate having kids, well…too bad you’re stuck with them  (You didn’t think I was giving you an easy way out on that one did you?).

The point is you are in control of your life. Not your church, your parents, your family, but YOU! Wake up in the morning and think, what would make you happy today. Take a day off of work and dedicate it to yourself. Take a day off from your spouse and dedicate it to yourself. Take a day off from the kids and drop them off with a relative.

Believe it or not, life is short. It’s up to us to make the best of it. Because when D day comes, you don’t want any regrets, just memories of you having fun.

So, today’s verse is, go out and do something for YOU!

The Game

In school we are taught about science, math, sex education, and other subjects that are useful as we take our journey into what we know as life. But wouldn't life be a little easier if someone took the time to explain relationships and dating. This game with unwritten rules that we get caught up in.

Who are the players, men and women. That's right guys, women are players too. Really, lets put our egos aside for a minute and think back to that girl that used your heart for a yo-yo...yep, you were PLAYED!

Or the girl you used to carry books for her in school, walk her to class, and help with her homework only for her to turn around and date some other guy...yep,PLAYER!

Funny thing is the same girl will get her heart broken by that other guy and then come crying to you. And we'll be there for her...The shoulder to cry on...only to get played again.

"Nice guys finish last", this must had been a phrase intended for the rules of the game. It's the nice guys that get played the most. It can be obvious to us that we are being played, but the "nice guy" will be blinded to the fact, in hopes that he's wrong and she's different. A little piece of advice nice guy, WAKE THE HELL UP!!!

If a girls a true player, she won't change. She will keep you on a string, eating your hopes away ("The yo-yo effect"). There are different levels of players, but I'll cover that in a future blog.

Here are a few signs to look for to see if you are getting played.

1. She goes out with other guys, but never seems to have time for you.

2. Only calls you when she has a problem.

3. Lets you talk about your feelings, but quickly changes the subject when it is her turn.

I'll follow up with part II later, till then PLAY, but don't be PLAYED!

Societys Plan or Fate

I recently started working in Downtown Miami. It's a beautiful city with many tall buildings. I ride the Metro-Rail to work, similar to New York's subway system, but it's an above ground train. I was amazed to see how many people use the train to go to downtown. As I got off the train and started to walk across the street to my building I was greeted by people on the street asking for spare change. In fact, it seemed that the more I would walk, the more people asking for change I would see. These people are the homeless of Miami. The office that I work in is on the 26th floor of the building. From the window I can see the ocean, beautiful blue skies, and tall buildings all around. As I look down to the streets I see lots of people walking the side walks of downtown. From up here, they look like small ants. You can't tell the difference between the lawyers, waitresses, or homeless...you just see that their people. How do people end up homeless? Is it just part of life? I'll take it one step further. How is it that some people end up rich in life and others end up with a minimum wage job or on the street? Growing up you always here, you can be what ever you want to be. Some how I can't think of any child saying they want to grow up to be a garbage man, a stock-boy in a supermarket at the age of 40, or a homeless person.

Not everyone can grow up to be a Bill Gates or Donald Trump. I mean, really if we all did then who would take out are garbage or stock the supermarket? Remember the phrase "It's a dirty job, but someone has to do it"? Well, someone has too. If not how would society function? But, does that mean there have to be homeless? Whose problem is the homeless, and not only in downtown Miami, but all around the world? Can the homeless be helped?

What Women Want

Remember that clever movie with Mel Gibson and Helen Hunt?

Wouldn't it be great if guys had the ability to read what women are thinking? At least then guys would have a good chance at understanding them.

No offense ladies, but some of you don't know what you want...so how are the guys suppose to figure it out?

Women are funny, they tell you they want you to be honest with them, more open, but then when you are ...let's just say you were better off keeping things to yourself. Any guys experience that?

Here's an observation I've made in life that I'm sure most guys will agree. A lot of the good women are with the men who treat them bad.

Funny enough, at the same time a lot of the good guys are with women who treat them bad. It's like a cycle that just keeps going.

Are we doomed from ever being in a happy relationship?